Born for each other – Reason to write


                                                                -Pamela Withers


In this magazine article “Born for Each Other”, the writer has mentioned two purpose to inform and to entertain the readers. The topic which makes two people a good match for each other is interested to keep relationship with people. And the title of the article has been borrowed from an expression of one person who often hears people talking about good match. If men and women are born for each other, they should be perfect in all aspect of life. The writer has described common birth-order’s characteristics and some thought on the best and the worst matches for each other. The writer categories children: oldest child, youngest child, middle child  and only child. According to the writer,the oldest child tends to be self-assured, responsible, a high achiever, relatively serious and reserved with parental qualities for caring younger siblings. The youngest child tends to be outgoing, adventurous, optimistic creative, easy going and less ambitious than others in the family. The middle child is influenced by many variable however, middles are often introverted, less likely to take initiative or achieve high academic standards and more anxious and self-critical than others. The only child picks up characteristics of his/her sex, parent’s birth-order having may influence to represent his/her best match for one’s life partner too.

Discussion: Critical thinking

  1. The audiences for the two reading in this chapter are different. Forer’s audiences might be a university psychology class, and Withers’ audience might be the general public. The writers therefore chose different subject matter and wrote on different styles. How are the subject matter and style different in the reading.

Ans. It is true that the audience for the two reading in this chapter are different Forer’s audience might be a university psychology class students, but Wither’s audience might be the general public. As a result, most audiences will probably agree that Forer’s subject matter is more serious with her more academic  or formal style. The excerpt in Part 1 is from one of two books the psychologist wrote on birth order. In deed, Wither’s subject matter is lighter and perhaps more entertaining. As a magazine writer, Wither’s has used a style that is lively and energetic. We see this In her everyday examples, having used shorter sentences and expressive vocabulary.

  1. Withers tells us that the birth order of spouses can affect the success of their marriage. Do you think people’s birth order also affects their choices of friends? Who they choose to work with? Explain.

Ans. Withers tells us that the birth order of spouses can affect the success of their marriage. I also think people’s birth-order affects their choices of friends. Withers discusses that birth-order is a system of a family unit. Whenever children are born, they have also many choices. They choose their peer and friends of same level. Besides this, they like each other similarly. They share their feelings, emotions and experiences openly by sitting together. They do their duty and also they feel easy to talk and share their private and common matters of life. Birth order is universally true in a sense but it is exceptionally happened a bit age problem. The writer has said that birth order relates mental and physical coherence between boys and girls. They can choose their life partner from their peer groups. Withers also highlights the birth order which could be affected for the success of their marriage. If there is age gap, their marriage may not be good because age factor makes problems in their married life. Marriage is a compromise between husband and wife. If wife is more aged, husband couldn’t understand her feeling and emotions. Overall, they choose to work same age and peers friends in their life.

  1. Some psychologists criticize birth-order theory as wrong and unscientific. What is your position? Do you find the birth-order theory believable? Explain.

Ans. Critics of birth-order theory say that it I not scientific because one cannot prove it. It is also like astrology.